I always believed that women should not change their last name after marriage. And when I got married, I was sure I would do the same. My reasons are technical. Why go through the hassles of a name change when it is not an obligation but just a stupid societal practice? What about the documentation/certificates etc that were issued on the old name? Birth certificate? Graduation degree? Passport? You need another document endorsing that the old and the new name are actually the same person! And do this for the rest of your life??!! And getting more argumentative, why should a girl give up her family or father’s name just because she got married? Why should she disassociate herself from something that has been her identity for her entire life? And for whom? Society? I say – Bull shit! Men who try and impose this, I think, are way too egotist and insecure. If that is the case, they need therapy!
I am lucky to have a family that echo my sentiments – not the BS part though! Anyways, both my sister-in-law have not given up their last name, nor my mom or sis and neither will my wife do so. I think that decision should be left entirely on that individual. If she wishes to endorse her husband’s name after her name, so be it. If it is her desire, I totally understand. That’s purely sentimental. But doing so for reasons beyond that is plain foolish. All it does is create more hassles. Isn’t life complicated enough already?
My message to all women out there: To hell with customs and societal norms – if YOU don’t feel like keeping your husband’s name – Don’t do it!